Signs of Blocked Feminine Energy
The Need to Know and Control
You know why there’s that feeling of not liking surprises? The nervous system is telling you that if there’s no control, there is danger. There’s no actual danger, of course. Not in matters of controlling someone else’s moods, reactions or life circumstances.
As women, there is a lot of sunken time into having to predict what would best work for keeping the peace. The need to know usually comes from a place that’s worried. Yes, with good intentions. Worried nonetheless. When you’re worried, those worries gain precious mental space. Mental space better spent pouring into yourself and not into an endless pit.
How to Let Go of the Need to Know and Control
The process of healing feminine energy starts through getting comfortable with the idea of not knowing. Not knowing, not forcing. At first, this will make everything kind of feel like a risk. The healing starts when reminding yourself that feelings are there to protect you. Pair emotion with intuition, not against it.
Feminine Energy is Wonderful
Regardless of how you define femininity, tapping into it is virtually limitless once you let go off the false assurances of control and knowing. Start replacing worry with wonder whenever you can! Wonder creates warm feelings and optimism. With optimism, you can feed day dreams. They won’t fee as far with how much you pour into getting a little closer every day.
Toxic Productivity
Society is structured around a standard that one person has to deliver a set amount of, something, to society. Often asking women— to give their best. Impeccably and consistently. Proving right and left that we did it. As women! Which is, of course, an invitation to overpromise and over deliver. Resist the temptation to go above and beyond, simply because nobody is stopping you.
How to Get Away From Toxic Productivity
Start to honor your energy levels. Thanks to hormones we as women are structured to give a set minimum every day. The best is going to look different every day. Energy won’t fail, have faith in what your body is saying.
Rest is productive. When you rest truly, without worry. Make the active choice when you’re resting. Time to rest always pays off 10x. Rest is when you fuel creativity, self compassion, and peace.
The Formula to Really Resting
Here’s the formula to rest. Take a mental check in the body. Take a nap. If you’re in bed and can’t sleep, day dream with your eyes closed! Treat yourself to the best case scenarios. Make them real in your mind, indulge the possibilities.
If all you’ve had is coffee today, have your favorite sides. This kind of girl dinner will tempt the indulgence of cooking. Do your best to satisfy your appetite even if you graze on it over a long while.
Brain dump, always. If it’s on your phone, on a piece of paper or a blank word document. Write “I don’t know what to write” or “I don’t know how to feel”. More often than not this will keep the flow of thoughts going. Taking you to unexpected places.
At the end of the day, put work aside. Put aside the deadlines and metrics. When you’re on the clock you give what’s required. Make sure to match that with rest! This includes, most importantly, sleep!
How to Keep a Constant Sleeping Schedule
I’m begging you to keep a sleeping schedule. Give yourself as many hours as manageable. Get in bed early so by the time you fall asleep. It’ll be earlier than you thought. When you wake up in the middle of the night, have yourself something warm. Chamomile tea or milk. Maybe both! Return to bed and practice deep breathes. Return to the daydream. Make it feel real. One day it will be. The smallest parts of it will start to bloom!
Self Rejection
What’s stopping you from pursuing joy? The things you dream of are possible because others do it. There is proof that it can be done. Marry your enthusiasm to the joy of indulgence. Doing something you enjoy is a valid reason enough to pursue it more seriously.
Please don’t get tied up in the logistics of expectations and comparisons. Comparison and expectations from those without the vision do not feed you. They drain you. Someone being successful at something is itself a proof of concept! You have the proof that you need that it’s possible. That’s the powerful part, keep the focus here.
How to Feed Creativity
You’re creative enough to take the first step. The first step feels hardest because of betting on yourself. Bet on yourself, this time. This time, start! Because the people where you want to be were also where you are. Step one! The cost of success is going to be feeling uncomfortable. Have fun with being uncomfortable!
The beauty in starting something is the joy of experimenting and exploring! It’s fun to do something, just to see what would happen. What would happen if you did it just a little differently? That’s the playground of serendipity!
Focusing on Progress
Give yourself the chance of success before confiding yourself to mediocre. Success is the progression! Putting yourself out there. Practice! You’re the only person who can truly put you out of the running.
At first, take yourself seriously with play. Trying different things, different processes! Show up for yourself every day by stepping up to the plate every day. The outcome will be, just make sure that there’s an input in the first place. Things become magical when creating space from somewhere excited.
Building the Habit of Creativity
In turn, this makes a habit of creating. Focus on creating and implementing! Creativity heals feminine energy! Creation comes from the most unexpected places. Hobbies can be creative and so can the daily mundane. Feed that shift in perspective!
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